Sunday, July 24, 2016

How does one measure a strength of a man?

Do we measure it according to how muscular they are?
How many times they go to the gym?
How many times they build up their bodies in a week just so that people may find them attractive?

How does one measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it according to how many people follow that man?
Is it how people love the way he dresses?
How he draws people to himself according to how he looks?

How does one measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it according to materialistic possessions?
Is it where he lives?
What he drives?

How does one measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it according to how he demands attention when he walks into a room?
Is it what he drinks?
What kind of food he orders?

How do we measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it with his financial status?
Is it the credit limit he has on his card?
Is it the cash he has in the car?

How do we measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it according to his known associates?
Is it who he meets up with?
Is it the Job he has?

How do we measure the strength of a man?
Do we measure it according to external qualities of a man?
Is it his muscles?
It is his eyes? Or 
Maybe even his structure?

Is it not funny how we allow the things as small as money, fame and fortunes to dictate how good of a man a person is? I find it remarkable that throughout history we have been looking into wrong places for good men, when we vote for presidents, when women search for potential husbands, when parents are proud of their sons. We all have been fooled by the stigma and an old teacher called worldview, one that teaches that a good man is determined  by how heavy his pockets are.

I have been a victim too. I too looked for what we call a mentor or a personal life coach. I found one person who was way older I learned from him but after he retired it then dawned on me that every man can be a mentor even a person living on the streets, why do I say that you may ask. Every man went through a situation, a situation they can teach people how not to get into it and how can people who are into it can come out. Poverty, being a good father, being a good son, becoming a CEO, and etc. There are people who can mentor me in different situations but because I am looking for someone with suites, muscular, rich and wealthy I will never get an opportunity to learn from a person who went through those situations instead I will be learning from philosophies of a rich or wealthy man.

We have been faced up with this question for many years, though it came in many different ways, the question has always been the same, how do we measure the strength of a man? Things seem to change generation after generation things become new and rebranding takes place. In a relational context both men and women want to know how do we measure a means strength. 

Well, I too like albeit Einstein have an thought. I have studied our history and I realized that men's behavior  changes throughout generations. We have become even more complex than we were before, yet for some reason our views, and our approach to life are the same because they too are inspired by our mindset.

Mindset is a word that teaches about the persons views in life, a word that gives a clear Vision of where a person comes from and where they are going in life. I believe that the strength of a man is locked up in his mind waiting to be unleashed, i belive that a man is a man because of what he has in his mind, not what he looks like, hence i am emhasizing on the idea of Mindset.

A man who uses his fists, or his looks so that people can love, honor and respect him is not really a man.

So, how do we measure the strength of a man?
by what he has in his mind and how he uses it.